Dear Ellie: My boyfriend of couple...

Dear Ellie: My boyfriend of couple years is the only man who has made me be wrought up happy, beautiful, sexy and smart. Our sex life is with equal reason wonderful.

However, he has someone in his life. In all my relationships, I was cheated forward But he says we're meant to be together, just the timing is unfair Sometimes I get so frustrated and take it disclosed on him, yet he not at all leaves. I keep trying to leave him however my heart won't let me; besides, he goe ballistic.

His girlfriend travels a parcel She's never there for him. I know he finishs lonely. He has no pictures of her in his abode there's nothing of hers there to indicate that she exists, on the other hand I know she does. I told him I was dating someone besides and he's furious. He says he has too a great deal of invested in her, but he likes us both.

not long ago he text-messaged me that he chose her, and this was the hardest decision he has forever had to make. Yet he was calling me the nearest week, saying he couldn't stay away from me When we made delight in he said I make him forget she exists.

When I'm with him all my question s dissipate. I have an epileptic daughter and each time I'm at the hospital he picks us up when she's released. Do you think it's the sex that retains him coming back, or me personally?

YEARNING

Dear Yearning: You almost had me at "cheaters-can-be-lovable- too" -- until you mentioned your daughter's serious point in disputes Grow up, Mom! You may be blinded by way of your need to believe his classic commit to memorys but I urge you to make open your eyes.

Any lover who can dump you between the walls of a text message will dump you again. That'll leave you with flat more love-seeking insecurities than your previous betraying boyfriends. And it leaves your daughter watching Mom master shattered from yet another relationship where she's used and sudden pulled around. You owe her and yourself better than that! The other woman not barely exists, she pulls the strings upon him when she's fed up

He finishs away with cheating because women like you impediment him. It's time to straighten your spine and be the kind of woman you'd like your daughter to emulate, not pity.

Dear Ellie: I'm 19 and lately ended a beautiful relationship because he left for the Army. I'm imposing of him and we've kept in touch as friends and nothing else because he said he didn't want to pain the two women he lov greatest in number -- his mother and me

He reverted for one week, and we talked each night. I said I still lov him, however he replied we're just friends. I accepted it, further it still hurts. I believe he said that because he's leaving for Iraq and doesn't want me to be more pain if something happens to him.

SAD SITUATION

Dear Sad Situation: This is a time for showing unconditional support. It's the finest act of the couple love and friendship that you can put forward to someone who's courageously facing being in harm's way forward behalf of his country. propel letters and packages, but no constraining force

Dear Ellie: I met my girlfriend a year ago while spending brace months overseas. We've tried to hold fast contact by phone and e-mail; I'd springed to visit her again. unless things suddenly changed and I can't view myself moving there soon. She's unable to draw near here for financial reasons. We still regard with affection each other. What can we do?

WORRIED

Dear Worried: Stay in touch, since this was a meaningful connection for the two of you and a friendship worth cherishing, calm if the future is uncertain. However, do not make impossible pledge of loves or spend your communications agonizing through not getting together immediately.

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